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My thoughts about relationship

by OKOK 2017. 3. 19.

I have considered human relationships, but I have found a limit to what I know from my head, so I looked up the data. First of all the categories of human relationships that I have considered include all people, including friends, family, lovers, parents, family members, and acquaintances.


Let's summarize the thoughts that come to mind about about each definition and its relationship. A friend I think is a person who has a common interest and wants to solve it with the same problem consciousness. It is expected to meet someone who has a clear sense of values and loves his work. And when I came to society, the friend that I met when I have spare time was disappearing naturally.


A family is a community of destiny. I can not get rid of it and family can not get rid of me. My current family relationship is not very satisfactory, but I'm sure it will get better. First, my dad I though was a high school math teacher. He is logical and strict person. He respects hierarchy and courtesy. The most reasonable conversation in the family. Next, my mom told me about the importance of value. She is a person who cares about relationships and love. Her health has deteriorated since she was in her late 30s, but she has improved her body well now. I hope  that more mental and physical health will be restored in the future. Finally, brother is the most psychologically distant relationship among family members. The reason is that he is in opposition to the kind of person I like. While I like rational dialogue, he values religious values based on faith. So there is a difficulty of conversation. Also, He is a person whom I has put a wall in my mind to because of a bad memory when I was a child. I need to worry about what kind of effort I should make for the future relationship.


A lover is the person I want to spend most of my time in all my relationships. I am going to maintain that relationship with my lover as well as my wife after marriage. I have learned a  lot of ways of talking from my lover, and I still fell that I am scarce.


The sooner we learn the implicit rules of society, the better. It is important to understand  the words that have hidden meaning. Unlike elementary and middle school, the expressions that adults use are different. Particularly, those who are middle-class or higher need such comprehension and competence. This is because the way of expression in the middle class is more often expressed than the straight expression.


When I summarize these articles, I realize again that what I need now is an outstanding ability. I want to respect many people because everyone wants to be superior to others and wants to be acknowledged. In order to have such a desirable attitude, I muse first be superior. I am making my own weapons now. It is really my best practice to always think and straighten out.


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When I define words by myself, I know what is lacking and whit is good.  It also facilitates modification and adaptation.