It is a book that is read while listening to Christian liberal arts classes. I am mostly critical of this author's thoughts, but it is very good to think about the subject of relationship, lover and family while criticizing. As a busy modern man, I have had time to consider the most important people around me. The following is a summary of the chapters on Principle
Romance and a summary of his thoughts.
Summary
In this chapter, the author describes the process before marriage. There are four major stages. The four stages are usually relationships, deep relationships, courtship stage, engagement. And the author gives specific instructions at that stage. For example, he encourages readers to check that friendship-deeping activies, things to avoid, questions to ask. And he asks at the stage of courtship whethe you honor her parents, wheter you put yourself on trial
Reflection
As I read this chapter, I was amazed at the fact that there was someone who was specifically preparing for marriage. I think that such thoughts will naturally inrease and systematize when I get closer to my marriage age. Althoguh it is still far from marriage, I though it was not bad for me to think and prepare in advance. I agree with the author that I have to watch for a long time to meet my spouse to be married. I do not have specific steps like the author, but the people who have a deep relationship with me are below. A person who can talk about their feelings without hesitation. A person who can reveal his shortcomings. A person who can enjoy conversation. At the same time, I looked back on what kind of person I was. I rember the first year of college, when I was curious about the relationship. At that time, I was caught up in my own thoughts. Since then, I have come across various people through experiences and realized that people have different ideas. Nevertheless, I still think my thinking is narrow. Now I want to listen to people’s thought through various books rather than direct experience. I am also looking forward to seeing a variety of people in the future. Finally, the most important consideration nowadays is finding bad habits about relationships I do not recognize so far. This is not easy.